Quick questionnaire

October 2, 2009 at 2:10 pm (On dating and mating)

Ladies (and any lingering gentlemen),

Out of curiosity (and assuming we’re talking about a heterosexual couple)…

Do you prefer it when the man pays on a first date?

Answers that articulate your reasoning would be appreciated.



  1. Bridget said,

    In a word: yes.

    But I believe we’ve already established this. πŸ™‚

  2. Mara J. said,

    I think it depends on who asked who to go out. If he asks, he should pay. If you ask, you should pay.

    Personally, I will always and forever offer to pay my half on a date. I also insist on carrying my own heavy boxes and what not. My independent-woman, feminist side comes back to bite me in the ass often.

  3. Damsel Underdressed said,

    I’ll do my best to be articulate. πŸ™‚

    Absolutely, one hundred percent, yes. I believe the man pays for the date. If we are celebrating his birthday or other significant event, then I would pay. But other than that, no matter what…even if I had asked for the date…he pays. I do other things to keep it “even-steven.” And no…I don’t mean THAT. πŸ˜‰ I would cook dinner for him after a few dates or take him to an event that I already had tickets for.

    Just my take on things.

  4. accidentallygraceful said,

    Hahahaha. I was about to blog something about this. But you beat me to it. I probably still will. πŸ™‚

    Yes. I think the guy should always offer to pay for the date. Especially if it’s established as a date. However, I would probably jump in and agree to split the bill – depending on where we are in the date. For most first dates, I have.

  5. Karen said,

    Man pays on the first date. Duh. πŸ˜‰

  6. SoMi's Nilsa said,

    I find it so interesting that there are so many independent, forward-thinking woman who insist on their freedoms, yet expect the man to pay on the first date. What a double standard.

    I always asked to pay my half on a first date. And I meant it. And I never thought less of a guy who actually took me up on the offer.

    How can we women shatter the glass ceiling, expect equal pay for equal work and so on when we still want the men to “take care of us” … you can’t have it both ways.

  7. BS said,

    Oh sure we can, Nilsa! Just as we can be comfortable with women choosing to stay home with the children without worrying that it sets an example that daddies provide for the family while mommies cook, clean, and care for them.

  8. amber said,

    I guess my thoughts are that whoever asks for the date, pays for the date. If I ask someone out, I’m always prepared to fork over the cash. Although if a man offers to pay, I’ll usually take him up on it – I’m old fashioned, and part of being treated like a lady is being paid for. WAIT, that came out wrong. πŸ˜‰

  9. Hannah said,

    If he asks, he should offer to pay.

    If she asks, she should offer to pay.

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